How Long is Not Long Enough?

There are a few different opinions in the medical community regarding exactly what premature ejaculation is and how quick a guy’s sexual performance needs to be before he can be classed as a rapid ejaculator. The most startling, and perhaps worrying, judgement comes from the Masters and Johnson research team, who did pioneering work on sexual disorders and dysfunctions from the late ‘50s right up until the ‘90s. Their definition of rapid ejaculation was, and is, the male reaching ejaculation before his female partner does in more than half of their sexual encounters. So what does this mean? It means that if you had sex four times last month, but came too early three of those times, before your girlfriend or wife managed to authentically make her ‘O’ face, then you have premature ejaculation. Of course, this definition of premature ejaculation—one which is widely acknowledged as being a good and accurate sum‐up of the problem of coming too quickly—is especially troubling if you struggle to bring your partner to orgasm not just half of the time, but all of the time. Exactly how long do you need to hold out from reaching your climax if it’s guaranteed that your partner isn’t going to come anytime soon? It could all night, or all week. Maybe this definition of early ejaculation doesn’t feel right to you. So let’s look at it from a different perspective.
Other sex researchers have come to a different decision than Masters and Johnson on what defines a premature ejaculator. They say that if a man comes within two minutes of the start of sex, whether he makes his partner reach orgasm or not, he technically has premature ejaculation. Hmm…is this better or worse for you than the previous definition? It’s certainly more specific. If you fall into this category of guys—meaning that you usually come within two or three minutes of having sex—then you shouldn’t panic too soon. Alfred Kinsey showed in the ‘50s with thorough research that, wait for it, three quarters of guys come within two minutes in over 50% of their sexual encounters. That means that if you’ve got 12 guys stood in a row, who have all had sex twice that week with their respective partners, that 9 of them came within 120 seconds of starting. It sounds crazy, but it’s true. In fact, it might not sound particularly crazy or unbelievable if you’re one of these guys yourself. So that’s the second definition of premature ejaculation: reaching orgasm within two minutes half of the time. The first definition was reaching orgasm before your female partner does over half the time. Whichever you think most closely sums up your personal problem with premature ejaculation, the third and final definition is sure to be one you agree with 100%.

“Premature ejaculation means reaching your climax before you want to. It means coming before you’re ready and before you or your partner is happy to finish the sexual encounter—simple as that.”
Perhaps that is the best way to sum up what is essentially a subjective problem. If you come well before you’re ready to, then you’ve got a problem with early ejaculation. So now we’re ready to move onto the next stop on the road to absolute sexual control.

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Great Stamina … The beginning

There are certain sex‐related questions to which the real answers are unclear—and perhaps always will be. For example, does size matter? Ask a random woman and she’ll probably say no. However, get one of your female friends to ask her the same question again on your behalf, with you out of sight, and her answer is sure to change. The jury is out on the question of size and its importance in the sack, but it has reached a clear and definite verdict on a different sex‐related query: does it matter how long a guy can last during sex? The verdict is unanimous and unsurprising: YES. It really, really does. As such, if you’re a guy who either knows he can’t last long enough or thinks he’d just really like to last longer, keep reading. As you’ll soon see, premature ejaculation is a common problem, but one that often goes unfixed by those who suffer from it, but not, as you might guess, because fixing it is impossible. Rather, it goes unfixed because the sufferers either don’t know how to fix the problem or don’t make a conscious and concerted effort to address it using the best methods.
So let’s start at the beginning. What is premature ejaculation? It’s such a common phrase, but what does it really mean? Well, let’s get the other popular terms for premature ejaculation out of the way first. They are: premature climax, rapid ejaculation, early ejaculation and rapid climax—but they all refer to the same male sexual problem: coming too quickly. But what is deemed ‘quickly’?

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